Badboi69studd's Dating Q&A: Communication is Key

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Tell us about your first relationship? How long did it last? Whose heart got broken, if anyone's?
My first relationship was suppose to be just a one night stand and turned out to be a relationship. he was from Houston and I was from New Orleans. he was older than I was, but I wanted to date a more mature guy than date guys my age. For awhile we talked off and on... he would drive down once a month to see me and he would take me on dates. I enjoyed his company a lot and he made me very happy. We dated for three years and I cared for him a lot. me being so young, it was like I was the adult in the relationship. he had a meth problem that i helped him get over I never told my friends or family because all I would hear was I could 'do better', or 'leave him' and 'he is no good.' I didn't want to hear any of that; it was my relationship. I would deal with it and stick by him and help him through. For awhile, I thought things were going great, but for him they weren't. So, he decides to cheat on me with this guy and not tell me because he was waiting for the right time. After he said that, I was hurt very bad. I felt used and betrayed that he would do this to me. He had problems with communication which we were slowly working out and he decides to do this behind my back and then, later on, say we both wanted it. I didn't want it. I loved him and he thought I didn't. I showed my love and appreciation for him, but I guess I wasn't enough for him because I got hurt bad in the end and he walks off with someone while I'm left alone.  

Who was your first crush? If you're no longer with that person, what would you say to that person now, if you could?
I would say 'good luck with your life, I only wish you joy and happiness.'

Describe the type of guy you're most attracted to.
I'm attracted to taller guys, I like guys with dark brown hair and blue eyes with an olive skin color. Also, an upbeat attitude and a great smile.

What was your best date ever?
My best date I ever went on was a surprise picnic in the park. This guy was sooo romantic and I never had something like that before from a guy.

What do you consider to be your favorite kind of date?
My favorite kind of date would be going to a coffee shop and getting to know one another. I don't like fancy restaurants, but I do like Chinese food or Popeye's chicken, with great conversation.

When does sex usually come into the picture when you meet someone?
The sex comes after I get know the guy a lot better than one date, I would rather form a friendship first when meeting each and going out together more.  

What are you attracted to in a person that others might find surprising? (Big nose? Small teeth? Baldness?)
Probably dating a muscle man, my friends usually see me date swimmer's build guys rather than muscle ones and that would be a shocker to them.

What's the worst thing about dating?
The worst thing about dating is if the guy I'm seeing cant communicate well.

What's the best thing about dating?
The best thing about dating is when you find a guy that makes you feel so great and loved and of course the chemistry towards the both of us.

Are you the usually the dumper or the dumpee?
I'm usually the dumper, I want the best for myself I don't want to settle for less... if I know I can be happy with the right guy than I wont stop looking.

What's the cheesiest pick-up line you've used ... that's worked?
I've never really used a pick up line. Confidence and being your self will always work.

What's the best line someone's given you and did it work?  
The best pick line someone has used on me was to be their boyfriend at a club so this guy would stop bothering him and I remember seeing something like this situation in movies. I felt special that he picked me for that.

What's the worst line you've gotten?
The worst line I've gotten was if id like to go back to his place and have mad sex and i said "thanks for the offer, but I'm okay."

Do you tend to meet more people online or in bars?
I'd say both, but I don't go out to bars much because when I do, guys assume you're there to get picked up and I'm not all about that. I cant stand it when a guy just feels you up when you don't want it!

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