Damncuteradioguy's Dating Q&A: Gentlemen Only, Please

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Tell us about your first relationship? How long did it last? Whose heart got broken, if anyone's?
Oh wow, we're already starting out depressing. I'm 27 and my first relationship was when I am 30. That's me making a prediction. Nothing ever seems to last. I guess I'm still one of those traditionalists that wants to get to know someone for a really long time before anything happens. I don't hop into bed as a way to get to know someone so that apparently makes me unattractive. Yikes, this thing is starting out well. But I am a business owner and a fun person to be around. Eesh, I'm using this as a pick up tool now. Let's move on...

Have you ever gotten your heart broken? Tell us about it!
See answer 1. Yes, I'm always getting my heart broken. I can't really say I've broken a heart. I've broken a window before but he deserved it. No, just kidding. I grew up really quick. I got the wild partying out of my system in my teenage years and focused on my career when I was 15 (and 12 years later I'm still in it). So while I was already feeling like an adult, the other teenage guys were being teenage guys. My first kiss was at 20. Why am I embarrassing myself like this?

Who was your first crush? If you're no longer with that person, what would you say to that person now, if you could?
My first real crush was a guy named Anthony at my high school. He was on the hockey team. The guys all had pictures on the wall and I'd look at his big smile every time I went by. Then it was really exciting when I got a job at Red Lobster with a bunch of my high school peers and I found out that Anthony and his other two hunky brothers worked there, too. Anthony was a bartender but also worked in the kitchen some nights. I made a fool of myself by flirting and, now that I think about it, being too playful that I was annoying. But when I was the first person to get a digital camera (we're going back to 1999 now) I took every opportunity to snap shots of him! I'm beginning to realize just how creepy I am with my answers here. Hmm, perma-single? I think we know why. But as for Anthony, I believe he's married to some girl now. Ick.

Describe the type of guy you're most attracted to.
Somebody that's charming and fun. I like getting goofy and playful but also prefer to stay low key. I'm in media and despite talking and hanging with celebrities I prefer to have quiet nights at home. Somebody who's got a great personality (and body helps!) but can be social without the need to be a scene queen and Facebook whore. My life is private and someone who respects and appreciates that and wants to keep most of the details of the relationship quiet. I'm not a bar person but might go the odd time. The atmosphere there isn't appealing to me. Besides, when I want to drink and dance I go downstairs in my house and the bar and dance floor that I have there!

What was your best date ever?
A couple weeks ago I was joking with a guy that my dog Ernie likes roses and suggested he bring Ernie flowers because he was going to be late, all the while the joke was meant for bringing me flowers. Sure enough he showed up at the door with a rose and Ernie jumped, grabbed it and ran around the house with it. It was funny and charming and a great ice breaker. Did I really want flowers? No, but it was flattering. So, a guy like that that's sweet and spontaneous. We went for a walk and then had a nice fire in the backyard. The next time we got together I was so sick but felt like going out anyway. I decided to get dressed and we went for dinner. We cuddled up in the booth and had a couple drinks (my margarita had a bug in it so I lost my appetite) and then I suggested we go for a spontaneous trip to the lake. We stopped at the store and got a bottle of red wine and drove up there (it's my parents' place but they were already sleeping). We walked around the private resort and sat on the beach and looked at the stars. The dog ran around and found a bunch of sticks to throw in the water. We went to the playground and goofed around and chased each other. It was magical. I totally forgot that I was sick and feeling like hell (and that it was now 6 a.m. and I had to tape a show in a few hours). When he dropped me off he thanked me repeatedly for making it the best night of his life and he was so happy. The next day I was in the tub and we chatted on the phone and he was a basketcase crying because he said he'd never felt so great about a guy and told all his friends about me and it worried him and I got ditched. Went from being the best thing to swearing at me and telling me to get lost in the course of a phone call. What an ass, hey?

What do you consider to be your favorite kind of date?
Something spontaneous but also very casual. I'm not a let's-have-dinner-and-stare-at-each-other-and-assess-any-possible-future kind of person. Let's meet, go for a walk and talk. If I feel the person is analyzing and overthinking too much chances are it'll overshadow the time spent together. No real plan is best. Let's meet, let's talk and if we go for a walk or go to the store and get a bunch of groceries and make dinner, or if we make up a stupid game in the backyard and change the rules as we go, that's what'll capture my attention and keep me hooked. (Don't think you're being a gentleman by leaving all the decisions up to me! No, no, no! You call and say, "hey, let's do this tonight..." Deal?) Oh, and promptness and communication skills are a must. Can't stand lateness and bad communication. Those two will get you booted for sure. And, he has to like dogs. If you don't fall in love with Ernie, an adorable golden retriever puppy, move on!

When does sex usually come into the picture when you meet someone?
I'll let you know when we get to that point.

What are you attracted to in a person that others might find surprising? (Big nose? Small teeth? Baldness?)
I'm more about personality than looks. Yes, revoke my gay status because I'm not shallow and a size queen. Being a gentleman goes a long way with me. The quality I like most is someone that does things just because. I used to do that but then was told it's weird and people don't just do things like that without expecting something in return. Funny, I was doing it just to be a nice person. So, really, I'm not sure if people would find it surprising, but I really do just like honesty, trustworthiness and patience. The guy has to realize that he's not getting in my pants on the second meeting or even the ninth meeting. I might be in his by the third, but mine take a little more time!

What's the worst thing about dating?
The lack of seriousness people put into it. If you meet someone online, often people don't think the person on the other line is a person. Until you meet, most people just view you as a screen name, and that really bothers me. I am a busy person and the fact that I make time to write or give you my attention is a big deal. I don't let just anybody into my life. I want to get to know somebody quickly but not move it along too fast, if that makes sense. I hate the long drawn out Q&A of online "interviewing" and would much rather just meet at the beginning, have natural conversation, and spend time together. It's also a bitch to spend so much time with someone and have them disappear for some stupid reason or become an ass (see: lake story above).

What's the best thing about dating?
Lately, there hasn't been anything great about it. But in a positive mindset: The fun times. The laughter. The smiles. The kisses. The cuddles. The flower the dog steals.

Are you the usually the dumper or the dumpee?
I get ditched all the time. I don't think I've ever ended something with a person.

What's the cheesiest pick-up line you've used ... that's worked?
I am playful as it is. While I'm not sure it's cheesy, I have said to a few people, "You know what, I lost your number. What was it again?" And I'm surprised at how many people laugh but give the number anyway.

What's the best line someone's given you and did it work?  
Nothing really ever works. I suppose someone making a clever joke about Ernie or Rudy my shower head might capture my attention.

What's the worst line you've gotten?
I'm not sure. I disregard anything that's really sexual at the forefront. If I'm online the "what are you looking for?" question usually gets a "the ignore button" reply. Or "what brings you online tonight?" and I'll say, "the high-speed Internet connection at my house." Be unique in your approach. I'm now realizing just how high maintenance I am and this self-assessment has answered every question I've ever had about my single life!

Do you tend to meet more people online or in bars?
At the moment it's sort of neither. I am not much of an online chatter, but I have met people online. I don't go to the bar. I guess the answer is: online. I often joke about playing a dating game on my radio show and hooking up single people but maybe we'll have to do it for me one time. OK, will gay.com allow me to turn this into a personal ad because everybody feels sorry for me now? Feel free to write to me if you want to meet. I love traveling so don't rule out any sort of long-distance thing! Real gentlemen only, email damncuteradioguy Thanks for letting me vent/embarrass myself, gay.com. Love ya!

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